Accept your flaws
Jul 16, 2024
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Anam Fatima Arain
Pakistan
Oct 23
Joined May 13, 2024
A girl silent observant by birth but with normal physical features born in a Pakistani Punjabi family where looks matters. She was born fairer but her face tone changed into brown. Initially she was a child; not aware of societal expectations, time passed and she grew.
Her childish phase and unborn sister saved her, but when her younger sister was born her family started to compare; because for society a fairer complexion is beautiful, in the form of comparison she faced criticism even though she was made by god not she made her own self craftily badly.
At every family gathering she was being compared with own sister by other persons but this comparison started to make her life black and white; she felt insecurities in going out with sister even though she was beautiful too. Additionally, in her childhood she was called black by her father, he said not in a criticizing sense but every time it tore down her heart into million of pieces.
Later she started to use home herbal ingredients for fairing her complexion, fortunately it worked but it took a lot of time. But she continuously did it and got a fine tone. Onwards people started to criticize her nose; it wasn't bad but a little bit longer but thinner but unfortunately she couldn't overcome this flaw in her personality. Later on the internet helped in shaping her mind strong by displaying different kinds of stories in her feed. She didn't know that when she started to like her own self, at school functions her friends and seniors complimented on her hair that you got such beautiful naturally curled hairs. She happily started to care for herself and then went to university, where she found a friend who firstly texted her and said you are so innocent and got such beautiful features; you are very beautiful! and this changed her life.
She started to see herself in the mirror smilingly and it helped her in becoming confident!.
Today she is confident but she still feels insecurities but now she has learnt to focus on productive and mind making ideas instead of foolish ideologies made by society which only can make you depressed and to feel hatred towards your own self. Everybody has eyes; not all do not see the same. Only beautiful hearts can see the truly beautiful souls instead of apparent permanent beauties; which will fade away soon.